This week, we are talking about a love letter. It’s a different solo show as we talk about partnerships.
Partnerships can come in all different forms—friends, family, spouses, business partners, significant others, you name it, it can be there.
And I think I wouldn’t be who I am, or where I’m at, without my wife, Angela Straza. So why is it that the right partnership can change everything? I should give you a little backstory.
Angela and I met on eharmony. The courtship to say the least, was fast by most people’s standards. We dated for a little over three months and on our first trip together, I asked her to marry me.
So I had to ask myself what I was looking for in a partner before making a serious decision like this. On a side note, that wouldn’t hurt if you did the same thing. And here are a few of mine:
Are they a good person?
Can they take care of themselves without you?
And in my case, I wanted a strong person that was able to have a career without relying upon me.
Do you have a similar mission, vision and value?
Are you a better person with this partner?
Will they make you laugh? Are you attracted to them not only physically, but also intellectually?
Will they challenge you?
For me, this has been one of the things that I needed and wanted. And at the same time, it can make it difficult if you’re not ready for the challenger. Now, these aren’t all the things I asked myself when looking for a partner. But hopefully, you get the gist.
As the story went on, she and I talked about building our first company, she was one that said, “Hey, if you’re going to talk the talk, either do it or stop acting as if you can build something. Shit or get off the pot.”
She was right. This is what I needed. We need those challenges– the people that push us to become better than we were the day before. In my mind, that’s part of your measuring stick when looking at success. Are you a better version of yourself compared to the day, month, or year prior? That partner is there to help make that happen? So now what, who cares? Well, Angela did. I’m sure.
Here’s the reality. We had our bumps big and small. When those moments happened, a lot of it fell in the communication ring. Remember a few things: the other person isn’t in your head, let alone at the point in the conversation you’ve decided to bring them into. It’s better to let them know what’s truly going on in your business and personal day, as opposed to shouting out your partner. By communicating with your partner, they can see it from a different perspective. You’ve been sitting on something all day or even longer, and that can cloud your judgment and opinion.
Now, as we move further down in the relationship, I had an idea that can change the world. It has the ability to make a real impact on who you should be learning from. The idea came out of a problem I saw. The idea is now a reality and almost available– thanks to Angela.
She allowed me, or I would say, encouraged me to become a better person through self-education. And along this journey, which is still going on, we had those bumps in the road. We’re all going to have those. It’s the partner in our corner that will see the best in us to help make it happen.
So I’ll leave you with this: a love letter to my wife.
You have been one of the greatest moments, adventures, and experiences I could have ever asked for. I was only 31 when we met and didn’t truly know who I was. We have laughed together, cried together and move forward together. There were times when we question what we would do next.
But never have I questioned my love for you. You have given me our son and allowed me to live my dreams. As we grow old together and the road we choose won’t always be easy. But this I know, we will do it together and overcome those that tell us No. I couldn’t ask for a better partner. I love you forever and ever.
Brandon Lane Straza
You can connect with me on LinkedIn, Instagram, or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’d love to get in touch and talk more about personal development and how you can move beyond your limits.